Monday Giveaway!

Happy Monday, everyone! I recently wrote a post about abandoning social media FOR GOOD…

…don’t hate me BUT I may or may not have signed back into Facebook. Eek! I know.

BUT hear me out!

I wanted to make a Facebook PAGE to promote Rapetti Review (because let’s face it, even if I don’t personally use Facebook all the time – along with the other rare few who don’t – the rest of the world does). But, unfortunately, one can’t make a page without having an account. Thus my dilemma. Soooo, though I’m logged back into Facebook I’m genuinely not using it for stalking purposes other than to keep up with my new page. (I even went on a deleting spree and updated my settings so people who aren’t ‘friends of friends’ can’t add me!)

OK OK — I know you want to learn about the giveaway!! Basically this is my way to bribe y’all into sharing my page, ‘liking’ it and spreading the word!

OK Jackie, but what do I do??? How do I win?? Also, WHAT will I win?!

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GREAT QUESTIONS. 

If you’ve read my posts, by now you should know I love snail mail and all things handwritten. The lucky winner will win a 3-month subscription to CardNest! It’s a wonderful site where you can subscribe to receive three exclusive cards each month in the mail! Each card comes with a pre-stamped envelope too! So all you need to do is grab a pen and send some snail mail to some of your favorite people!

Entry Rules:

Head over to Facebook and ‘like’ my page HERE, and…

Comment (on the article link on my page or below) and let me know what a hand-written note means to you!

For all y’all who ditched Facebook – you can enter by commenting below! Or, shoot me an email at rapettireview@gmail.com.

I look forward to hearing from you guys!

Spread kindness and cheer, xo

Jackie

Sunday Inspiration

Sunday Inspiration

Happy Sunday, y’all! The sun is finally BACK in NY on this Mother’s Day…it’s been grey and dreary all week. In addition to celebrating my mom today, I’m taking time to do some spring cleaning and some writing.

Now that I’m back in the working world and commuting every day, I’ve taken less time to write – both here on my blog and in my personal journal. Eek, no good! I miss it. But, I’m happy to say, I genuinely love my job. I’m not dreading work tomorrow – I’m looking forward to it!

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Also, life has been so wonderful since quitting Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram. My boyfriend even decided to ditch Facebook the other day (he never snapped or insta’ed to begin with). Yay for social media not ruling our lives!

Enjoy your family and friends and all of the little things you love – life is short folks!

Spread kindness and cheer, xo
Jackie

Pilgrims Would Laugh At Us

Pilgrims Would Laugh At Us

Goodbye to my 588 Facebook “friends.” It’s not that I don’t care about you. I just don’t care what you’re doing every single second of every single day. You went to the gym? Awesome. You made yourself a kale-filled meal? Congrats. You went to the gym? Wait, again? Really, nobody cares.

Is that harsh? Perhaps. Maybe I’m just a curmudgeon who doesn’t know how to millennial. But I think it’s important for my peers to step back and ask yourselves: Why am I posting this? What’s the point? Do I want to educate and inform others? Or am I just trying to get a specific person’s attention? Is this an accurate depiction of who I am, or who I want to be? Or am I trying to mirror an image that I think society wants me to portray but this isn’t really me at all? Hmmmm…

I wish for a day when we can all live our authentic lives without worrying about how to frame a moment to get the most “likes.” Maybe when pigs fly. But then, of course, who would be able to resist the urge to post a flying pig on social media? Ugh.

Do you ever stop to think what pilgrims would think of society today? I’m serious. They’d think we were all completely batshit. We care more about our online images than our lives off screen. Every single person has become an actor on the social media stage. Even babies. Did you know 92 percent of kids in the United States alone have an online identity by the age of 2? Puppies I get, but babies…really?

We live in a constant state of notifications. Here’s a notification for you – life is not slowing down. It’s passing you by while you’re filtering through filters and no amount of followers or likes is going to give you the satisfaction you’re lurking for, err…looking for.

Not to mention social media can be dangerous. If you don’t want to delete your accounts, fine. But there’s absolutely no reason for folks to be on Snapchat, or any other social medium for that matter while driving. A quick five second snap of how fast you’re going could lead to zero seconds left of your life. Not worth it. One woman in Ohio left her son in critical condition after a car accident; she was found to be using Snapchat at the time of impact. Another teen in Washington admitted she was texting, using FaceTime and Snapchat all while driving, causing a rollover accident.

Again, can you imagine what the pilgrims would think?

Here we have all of these great technologies, but we’re abusing them. It’s frightening how disconnected we’ve become by constantly being “connected.”

People, get over yourselves. Stop caring so much about what other people think. Stop taking your phone out during lunches and dinners. Stop sharing every single facet of your life like you’re the next best thing since sliced bread. Take a break from social media and think about what makes you genuinely happy and go find that. Because I can bet that on your death bed, it won’t be likes or followers or the amount of time you spent waiting to connect to WiFi so you could upload that pic of you looking #fab with #nofilter.

Deleting my Instagram, Snapchat and Facebook was one of the most liberating decisions I’ve ever made. And that makes me sad. It’s sad that life has become so saturated with apps and tools that are supposed to bring people together, but they only make others feel like shit. Folks, people aren’t pixels. They’re people. Love them. Be with them. Start a real conversation in real life. Do it for the pilgrims.

Spread kindness and cheer, xo
Jackie

p.s. This media purge does NOT include my blog! Rapetti Review is here to stay!

I’M FREE! I’M FREE!

I’M FREE! I’M FREE!

Y’all I’m taking it back to the Stone Age and I’ve never felt better. I just deleted my Snapchat and two of my three — yes, THREE — Instagram accounts. And by “deleted,” I mean DELETED.

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I didn’t just remove the apps, or temporarily disable my accounts…they are GONE. Well, besides Rudolph’s Instagram, but he’s an adorable dog and his followers love him so…

Why the sudden move to purge these social media accounts?

I was actually inspired by fellow blogger, Audra and THIS post she recently penned.

When I look back on my life, am I really going to care about how many likes I got on a certain photo or how many followers I had? I sure hope not. I want to remember the people, the experiences, the moments that left me completely speechless. The times when I took in everything there was to see and made the most of it.

I love every point she makes and I couldn’t agree more. I have my reasons for keeping Facebook (it’s how I keep in touch with my bf who is currently in JAPAN of all places for the next two years) and I’ve actually found Twitter useful for networking (go figure). Plus, I like using FB and Twitter to share these blog posts with folks who aren’t on WordPress.

Tomorrow, I’m leaving for Miami with my grandma and two of my aunts; I found myself thinking about the photos I’ll take and the amazing memories we’ll have from this all girls trip.

And I don’t want to spend my time filtering through the filters of Instagram and Snapchat.

I’ll have my phone, sure, but I plan on keeping it off most of the time. I’ll bring my DSLR camera to capture candid moments because that’s something I enjoy doing. I love photography and videos and being my family’s so-called historian…but I don’t want to feel the need to upload and share every moment with everyone in my social network just to be ‘liked.’ Because guess what? I’m loved and I already know that, and that’s all that matters. And guess what? So are you. And you can live without all this social media too. #ImpromptuRhymeTime

It’s going to be a while (if ever) till I break from #RandomHashtags. But I’m off to a start. My point is, while it’s good to want to share your experiences with others, don’t let all the social media craziness get in the way of the actual experience. Live your life for YOU, not for the Insta.

Spread kindness and cheer, xo
Jackie

Beauty is not a pixel

Beauty is not a pixel

Mirror, mirror on the wall,

Who’s the loveliest of them all?

It’s you! It’s you! It’s you!

Don’t you dare feel so blue,

A like, a follow – none are true,

For they are digital and you are you.

A human. Being. Breathing. Living and

made of stars.

While a computer screen is but a jar.

Of lies, cries,

trolls in disguise.

Ditch the trends, they never end, they’ll swallow you whole.

But I like-

I want-

I need-

No, stop.

You have control.

We need to love and laugh and learn a lot,

for we’re fragile and prone to rot.

So break away from screens too bright,

for they are nature’s growing plight.

Have you lately seen the sky?

The expanse of nature,

far and wide?

Don’t take for granted what’s enchanted,

embrace the here and now.

For tweets on Twitter

cannot deliver

the sing songs of a sparrow.

Curse the cursor which gives a voice,

to those who think they have the choice

to bully, mock and spew their hate

behind a window made by Gates.

Donate your time and get offline,

beauty is not a pixel.

Read a book, ride a bike,

just don’t do it for the like.

Smile for what’s real, not the appeal

of what it may look like to others.

For the filtered veil will one day fall,

And then, my dear,

what? What will you have at all?