This post is for all y’all transitioning from divorce to dating. And it’s also for those looking for a bit of entertainment… 😂
Alright, so you may or may not remember the time I eloped. TBH, not many people do…
Alright, I get it! Y’all forgot! Probably because it was extremely short-lived and every time someone said ‘Congratulations!‘ I wanted to
hurl be like…uh, for what?
I don’t regret it but I’ll be the first to say it was a mistake. Like, attempting to cut your own bangs or sharing highly personal information on the internet! Oh, wait… Whoopsie!
To me, marriage is not a big deal. It’s not an accomplishment. It’s not something you should aspire to do just because. But, I realize not everyone agrees with me on that.
And it’s a huge deal to some people.
So, as I dove back into the dating world (Lord, help me), I was curious what guys would think about dating a soon-to-be divorcée (I’m still technically married on paper but literally that’s the extent of the relationship).
I embarked on this social experiment because so many friends have asked me if I’m going to tell these dudes about my situation. I’ve thought about it myself…like, I’m not technically divorced yet so how do I bring that up? Like, at the end of a date should I say, “Surprise! You just went on a date with a married woman!”?
Probably not. So, I decided to ask these guys straight up and their answers (pleasantly!) surprised me!
First, there was Noah.
He’d been burned before and was a bit cautious about the whole thing…but he seemed to get over it relatively quickly.
Then there was Cody.
His opening line was lacking but he ended up asking a lot of questions which led to a great conversation.
He proceeded to ask what kind of ceremony I had, what my parents thought about the divorce, etc. He seemed very intrigued by it all and ended up asking me to dinner by the end of it. 😂 Dinner is pending, as is my divorce.
Adam was next.
Though it was something he’d never considered, he seemed extremely unbothered by it.
Andrew didn’t seem to care much either.
Never, Andrew. The answer is never.
He was the first to give me the answer I had honestly expected more of…
Granted, he did change his perspective when I expanded on my current situation…
Honestly, I was expecting an “oh hell no” somewhere peppered in these responses, but nothing! These guys truly surprised me!
I then “met” Brendan and asked him the same question. His answers were long and thoughtful, and my favorite. It was no surprise to find out he’s a fellow writer.
Isn’t Brendan the best? I mean that flower comparison, come on!!
So, there ya have it! If you’re going through a divorce, don’t worry what others will think. I figured guys would unmatch me after getting this question (some might’ve, I didn’t notice), but I really enjoyed reading their answers! Granted, some didn’t reply at all…probably afraid of why I’d asked. 😂
Disclaimer: I’m not coming out of a long marriage with tons of baggage (no kids, well, no dogs in my case, etc. etc.) but even if I were, in Adam’s words, “Everyone’s an adult, we all have a
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Spread kindness and cheer, xo